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When the VA Hospitals used his program, their success rate at curing alcoholism exceeded 50%. The question of the pain and would I do it again is something I don’t struggle with; I don’t want a partner that fights his demons at this time of my life. I think if you are set on the road to sobriety let it be your goal. If we want to be healthy, whole, and happily sober, we have to figure out how to cultivate that spectrum of CHARACTERistics that enable us to stay sober, happy and healthy, and the same kind of addictive approach to relationship is a detour from this process in the first few months of sobriety for a whole lot of us.
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And if that was to much for her to handle she should go find another hostage instead of wanting me to play those games with her.
She did, she picked up a guy that wants to be abusive and be abused.
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Sober & Single is an internet website for sober singles looking for love, dating and romance; people whose common bond is their desire to date others who wish to be in an alcohol-free relationship.As far as the DSM listings go, I suggest you concentrate a bit on the new section “Personality Change Due to a General Medical Condition.” As a research physiologist (not a practicing psychologist), I sort of have a little insight on how that works and hope they expand on that greatly in future editions. Williams pointed out years ago, proper treatment must include a healthy dose of diet and exercise, along with the support of the camaraderie found at the AA meetings. Know yourself and most of all having integrity is the best gift you can give yourself. I've met some long- recovered addicts who have some brilliant gifts to share. and then when you're ready to get out there, be upfront and honest and find someone who totally supports you for your decision to be sober and is willing to not hit the bars or whatever. I've been involved with people in recovery before and to be quite honest, I would be quite hesitant to date anyone in recovery..their friend absolutely but that is as far as I could take it until I really knew them.Once that is in progress, then psychology can be used to work out ancillary problems specific to that person. I think the biggest struggle people have is acquiring new coping skills to deal with the demons. (humility, perspective, humour, wisdom to name a few)My concerns would be around building/seeking new intimacy when you are in a bit of a fragile state. There are so many people who are clean/sober and have been for years but they are only abstaining from using/drinking..aren't healthy people.as a psychologist i asume you actually have some education on teh subject? I don’t need a book to tell me what I already know well. I went to treatment in Ottawa, ON (Canada) and found that the bonds I shared with other recovering addicts was very strong, and it was easy to fool myself into thinking this was 'the real thing' when in reality, as you learn in NA, a(n) (recovering) addict can best understand another (recovering) addict. I personally find it difficult being ‘present’ and taking men seriously here for fear of some addiction they might have not knowing the community he comes from. Anything that makes us feel good we can get addictive about and we tend to take hostages rather than "lovers" and we tend to fall for the "instant relationship" fix, expecting someone to MAKE us healthy, whole, happy, etc.Fact is, psychology, by itself, has very little to offer an alcoholic. Love will come when it comes, and I for one do not want to lose out on an opportunity should one arise in early recovery. So much has changed with people becoming transient with history left to trust. And "thirteenth-stepping" (aka "recovery by insertion") is very common in 12-step groups.The best published results are just 10%, and those are usually only temporary. That’s why I was dedicated to research rather than practicing. .getting back to the original poster's question.i dated an alcoholic..was not up front about it at first...which is why i got involved in the first place...i cared about him and when he told mek, i felt i could not walk away...which in hindsight is exactly what i should have done...would have saved me a lot of heartache and ill feelings between us..lied a lot, he cheated, and would excuse himself by saying it's the alcohol..he was a nice guy when not drinking which he never did around me..fact is he was a total jacka** when he was drinking..had tried to go into recovery at different times, and he told me that they tell you to avoid relationships during your first year of recovery....supposedly he stopped drinking when he got married to his ex wife..when he suspected her of cheating and she asked for a divorce, he began again..it got steadily worse..had an abuse charge for pushing her, a dui charge and supposedly ''quit'' his job, although it came after him spending a night in jail for the dui....everytime he got upset about his ex wife, he'd drink, and he would become belligerent about her..do crazy things..she knew how to push his buttonsobviously he is one who cannot maintain any kind of relationship and go into recovery...is one of his stress factors that caused him to drink heavily....maybe it depends on the person, but i think to work the program right, perhaps you need to follow all the rules they give u... OP I come from a community where there was abuse of alcohol as well as people abused as a result of alcohol. And the lonliness can be really brutal, after it's all done, especially if your addiction was wrapped up with your SO at the time. Predatory men AND women find people who are new in recovery, who desperately want to be rescued, a magic "fix", and "love" to them is an addiction as much as any chemical ever was.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating